Sex, Joy, Pleasure, Fun, Excitement, Satisfaction, Health

Key Insights

From Dr. Danoff: Male Sexual Health:
"Sex is life's cheapest luxury and should be fun and relaxing, a simple, natural pleasure that erases worries, tensions, and burdens. … Using your penis for the purpose nature intended is one of life's great pleasures and good for your health in general – for your cardiovascular health, mood, and psychological well-being. Penis use is a natural tranquilizer with no harmful side effects.

Men who are sexually frustrated tend to be tense and irritable, while men who are sexually satisfied and feel good about themselves as sexual beings tend to have a positive outlook and a warm glow of health. Sex is also excellent for overall fitness. It benefits circulation, stimulates the nervous system and the prostate gland, and clears mental cobwebs."

You, me, our parents, our friends, neighbors, kids, grandkids, everyone we see, every one of the 7 billion people on earth were produced by a couple. Our whole civilization, society, community, and family are based on couples having sex. There is nothing "dirty" about having, talking, writing, and seeing sex. We should rejoice in it and enjoy it.

The average person has sex - a lot of sex
55% of Americans have sex at least weekly (
Durex Survey).
Sexually active 16 to 45-year-old Americans average intercourse 138 times a year (2.6 times/week). Half of High School sophomores are already having sex.

Your parents did it. Your grandparents did it.
If you want grandkids, your kids will do it.
They must learn what it is.
Here is where to start S
Our Whole Lives Assumptions · All persons are sexual. · Sexuality is a good part of the human experience. · Human beings are sexual from the time they are born until they die. · It is natural to express sexual feelings in a variety of ways. · People engage in healthy sexual behavior for a variety of reasons, including to express caring and love, to experience intimacy and connection with another, to share pleasure, to bring new life into the world, and to experience fun and relaxation. · Sexuality in our society is damaged by violence, exploitation, alienation, dishonesty, abuse of power, and the treatment of persons as objects. · It is healthier for young adolescents to postpone sexual intercourse.

 Why Good Sex Matters by N.Wise

"The Health Benefits of Sexual Expression include physical benefits of sexual activity, such as enhanced overall longevity, reduced risk of coronary heart disease, and decreased risk of type-2 diabetes. Studies also have indicated lower rates of prostate cancer in men tied to more frequent ejaculations, and lowered rates of breast cancers in women who are sexually active. Being sexually active tends to enhance immunity, improve sleep, improve fertility, improve mood, reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression, and help people manage chronic pain. And sexual behavior can enhance feelings of well-being and self-esteem and smooth over rough points in a relationship by facilitating bonding."

People reporting poor sexual satisfaction were plagued to a greater or lesser degree with the inability to experience pleasure in life - a lack of enthusiasm, a deficit in well-being, and a decided inability to enjoy even the simple pleasures. It was as if these people had lost their lust for life. Pain was everywhere: depression, anxiety, addiction, physical ailments, psychic strain, social isolation, financial stress, spiritual suffering.

The people who report having healthy or satisfying sex lives feel better, manifest less depression and anxiety, and experience an overall more complete sense of happiness. The ability to get pleasure from our genitals and be sexual is part of the basic equipment that comes with being human." 

In addition to supplying the basis of life itself, sex is the family's foundation, leading to everything good in human society. Sex is linked to how we feel about ourselves and relate to others, our family, and the community.

Sex is pair bonding. There are two folks in the picture. At the lowest level, it is about pleasure. The feeling of having sex is the most pleasurable activity a human being will ever have.

We would not be having sex if it did not feel spectacularly good. It is about mutual pleasuring and having someone else share the feelings. Having a bonded partner is one of life's great satisfactions. Being in Love. The intimacy of relationship. "That dark feeling of being ultimately alone as we struggle through life" "People who have intimate relationships live longer and healthier lives and report more personal happiness and satisfaction with the way they live.” “A number of research studies have shown persuasively that people in intimate relationships live longer and happier lives than those who are not.”

Which Leads to Families and Making Babies

Having Sex is Part of Being Human

 

To make babies, you have sex.
You rarely have sex just to make babies.


You have sex for:
Joy, pleasure, fun, excitement, satisfaction, health.

 

Sex is a lifetime of companionship, comfort, pleasure, and satisfaction.
The Joy of Intimacy  When we "make love" we are making a more loving life for ourselves.

Wired for Love:
"My scientific research on the brain has convinced me that a healthy love life is as necessary to a person's well-being as nutritious food, exercise, or clean water. Evolution has sculpted our brains and bodies specifically to build and benefit from lasting romantic connections. When those connections are frayed or ruptured, the consequences to our mental and physical health are devastating." (Stephanie Cacioppo)

Nothing in life feels better

 

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Everyone pictured is part of a couple. Each enjoying intense pleasure. The birthright of every human being.

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